Tips for coming out to your doctor

Are you out with your doctor? Your sexual health plays a big part in your overall wellness, so if they don’t know what you do between the sheets, chances are you aren’t getting the care that fits you. Here are a few tips for being more open with your doctor.

Not sure your doctor is supportive?
Look around the waiting room for hints. Are there posters or magazines that are rainbow-friendly? Some offices and health clinics display the Human Rights Campaign sticker to show their support.

Ask your doctor to chat while you’re still fully clothed.
Lying half-naked on an exam table can make you feel vulnerable. Strike up the conversation about your sexuality before the exam begins.

Be direct, be honest.
Talking about your sexuality doesn’t have to be a big production. Be straightforward: “Hey, I have sex with men, so let’s talk about which tests I need.” Or drop indirect hints: “My partner, Jeff, and I don’t use condoms anymore” or “The guys I sleep with are all on PrEP.”

Ask your doctor if they’re comfortable treating men who have sex with men.
Once you’ve spilled the beans about your sexuality, ask your doctor if they have experience—and are comfortable—with treating the gay community. If not, it may be time to find a new healthcare provider. Check out this interactive map of LGBTQ-friendly healthcare facilities by HRC.