Talking with your partners
Just met someone? Start the conversation. Talking about topics like STD testing, HIV status, condom use, or PrEP with new or potential partners can be awkward, but it doesn’t have to feel like an interrogation.
No matter how you communicate—face-to-face, texting, or chatting online—start with info you might already have, such as, “I see by your profile that you’re on PrEP.” If you feel strongly about something, put it out there: “I’m undetectable but I still like to use condoms to avoid STDs.”
Talk about what protection means to you—and your partners. Just because you believe in using condoms during anal sex doesn’t mean your partner shares your view. Strike up the conversation about the methods you and your partner use to protect yourselves. Your shared experience will be better if you both feel safe and comfortable.
Keep the dialogue about all things sexual open. If you’re in an ongoing relationship, revisit conversations about sexual health—including testing, status, and protection—every few months or as circumstances change.
Looking for more tips? Check out these conversation starters.